You have to understand that we have some hurt going on in our lives. So being this cute, fun kid won't be the easiest. We feel a void in our hearts because our family was taken away. Don't get me wrong some kids are thankful that they were taken away from their family. Obviously the parents did something to get their kids taken away. These things run in our minds on repeat. Maybe if our parents had acted better our lives would be better. You just have to let us know, that life can be better now. With you (foster/adopted parents). Let us know you care about our future. And tell us you want the best for us. Don't lie to us, tell us the straight truth. We have been lied to and hurt enough, don't you think?
When we have someone who honestly cares about us, we stop worrying about every tiny little thing. We also start hoping that this person won't change their mind. That's the one thing we worry about all the time, but trust me once the person proves their love then we settle down. |